السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

Ramadan is gone now and I miss it dearly. May Allaah allow us to reach another Ramadan Aameen. This post is about society’s pressures on females.

At-Tin 95:4. لَقَدۡ خَلَقۡنَا ٱلۡإِنسَٰنَ فِيٓ أَحۡسَنِ تَقۡوِيمࣲ

English – Sahih International

We have certainly created man in the best of stature;[1]

Nowadays women are expected to look a certain way due to society’s standards but who said these standards are important? They’re not. We should look at what Allaah and His Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) have told us women to dress.

If you have insecurities then know you are not alone and remind yourself that Allaah has Created you. You are beautiful just the way you are. Don’t care about what people think etc. Remind yourself your goal in life is to please Allaah and watch everything else fall into place by the will of Allaah.

Keep your beauty hidden for the sake of Allaah and keep it for your spouse’s eyes only (of course mahrams can see you in your normal attire too).

Whatever you want, ask Allaah especially during the last 3rd of the night. Pray tahajjud and make dua. Allaah will not dissapoint.

Read about the Sahaabah, the Prophet’s wives and how they dealt with modesty. When the ayah of hijab came down, the women of the Sahaabah tore their clothes from the edges and covered their heads and faces. SubhanAllaah.

Al-Ahzab 33:59يَآأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّبِيُّ قُل لِّأَزۡوَٰجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَآءِ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ يُدۡنِينَ عَلَيۡهِنَّ مِن جَلَٰبِيبِهِنَّۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدۡنَىٰٓ أَن يُعۡرَفۡنَ فَلَا يُؤۡذَيۡنَۗ وَكَانَ ٱللَّهُ غَفُورࣰا رَّحِيمࣰا English – Sahih International

O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments.[1] That is more suitable that they will be known[2] and not be abused. And ever is Allāh Forgiving and Merciful.[3]

About 8 years ago I wrote a poem regarding insecurities and the pressures girls face trying to ‘fit in’ to society whilst I was dealing with acne myself.

INTENSE INSECURITIES

Insecurities, insecurities, insecurities

Why are you here to make me feel weak?

You make me sick

Sometimes the tears I just can’t control

So, I let them roll

I’m trying too hard to fit into society

Accepted is all I want to be

I want to be beautiful

She doesn’t see her beauty, what a fool

Walks past a mirror and stares

At her face that is bare

You see she doesn’t wear makeup

To cover up

Because it is not allowed in front of non-mahram

As that is haram

Everywhere she goes she sees flawless faces

Each girl competing as if they’re doing races

Beautified face is always the case

Trying hard to impress

Wearing a tight dress

You see she knows most of it is fake

But she still sometimes feels the urge to ‘bake’

She knows she can wear makeup, but it shouldn’t be on display for everyone to see

Her beauty is only for her husband and family

This is so that she can be protected and modest

Even though, sometimes it can be a hard test

Some days her reflection, she just doesn’t want to see

Although, she is constantly told her acne doesn’t matter by her family

But she doesn’t believe

Her beauty she can’t perceive

The pressures of being a teen

But then she thinks about her deen

How Allaah has created her

To say she is not beautiful just wouldn’t be fair

Allaah is Al-Khaliq and has Created her with beauty

She just had to remember this, wherever she may be

This keeps her going

Al-Alim is with her, the All-Knowing

Insecurities, insecurities, insecurities

You can try to make me feel weak, but I’ll try to stay strong

Knowing that Allaah does not create anything wrong

So, she has her ups and downs

But she’s trying to get over it and that’s all that counts…❤️